Psychic Rhiannon Paille

There's no room in the world for good guys. For the last few years I've conducted my business with myriads of female clients all with different problems relating to males. Some of them are going through relationship cycles, some are holding out for long love loves or soulmates, others are traipsing their way through the hot and cold battle with a man who just doesn't get it and others are trying to better understand their man so that they can be there for him in a greater capacity. Most of them want the same thing, a man that loves and cherishes them and sees all that they are doing for him. They want him to wake up and smell the coffee, they want him to call when he promises to call, and they want him to be affectionate, sensitive and independant.

The funny thing is that it's never the men calling me, it's always the women worried about their man. The men on the other hand seem to think they have it all figured out for the most part. They think they know what they're doing, and what they want, or at least they did up until recently. 

Lately I've been seeing a new type of client fit into my clientele, and that is the confused male. I'm suddenly finding men who are actually plagued by the same problems that the women are plagued by! Interesting to see the shoe on the other foot, and interesting to see that there's no real difference between the stress levels, the wants, the desires, and even the problems they're having with the woman. As it turns out, the women can be just as bad as the men they're always complaining about!

I digress however because when I have had the pleasure of reading for a man, and specifically tapping into the female mind, I have noticed that there is a huge problem with the way women view men.

Women talk three times more than men do, that's actually a fact, and since most of us have a man in our lives, it's just natural that we would talk about him. The problem is that we've all created a stereotype of a male, and believe me, he's not Fabio, he's more like Homer Simpson. That's right, currently the stereotypical male is someone that is fat, lazy, stupid, dirty, arrogant, ignorant, insensitive, insecure, childish, self centered, interested only in sex, and needy.

I suppose we can blame it on the feminist movements in the past few decades, the equalization of women in the workplace, the supermoms of the world who run the household, cook, clean, take care of the kids and work a part time job. We can blame it on all the bitter women in the world who actually happened to know a man who was the epitomy of above, we can even blame it on movies and television. At the end of the day though, we have nobody to blame but ourselves. 

Men have lost their place in the world, they're not expected to be the bread winners, nor are they expected to look after children, repair their houses, cook, clean or do laundry. They're not even expected to drive their own vehicles.Men in today's society really don't know where they fit. They can spend their whole lives trying to climb the corporate ladder, but there's ten times the competition there used to be due to all the females and all the minority groups in need of success in the world.

We wonder why men treat women badly, why they whine and complain all the time, why they feel like instant failures no matter what they do, well take a look at what they're up against!

Men have lost their respect in the world, they've lost their power, they've lost their personal security, and they've lost themselves.Men feel useless because women have become so independant, so strong and so self reliant.

Next time you feel the need to criticize your man, take a minute to step back and ask yourself if it's really justified. Are you jumping to conclusions? Are you trying to nip some type of bad behaviour in the bud? Are you reacting because of the stereotypes? Or are you just upset that he's being a man and doing what men do? Sometimes we need to give them the benefit of the doubt, sometimes we need to let them be the providers they used to be, and sometimes we need to give them the respect and dignity they deserve.

- Rhi